About us
About Kinky Singles South Africa: Kink Dating Since 2009
Adults only and built on respect: kinky sex, fetish hook-ups and BDSM play partners, for old hands and the curious alike.
Who it is for
Adults who want to say what they are into
Kinky Singles South Africa is for adventurous adults aged 18 and over.
Some members have lived in the scene for years and know exactly what they want. Some are curious and want to talk to someone patient before they try anything. Dominants, submissives, switches and people with a fetish or two all use the same site, and the site is built so that nobody has to translate themselves.
It has been online since 2009, and back then its line was “Meet adventurous adults to indulge in fantasies and fetishes”. That is still the job. Today the site has more than 500 members, with the largest groups in Gauteng, the Western Cape and KwaZulu-Natal and more in smaller towns.
Our mission
Adventure, with respect at the centre
To connect adventurous adults with like-minded singles, with respect and honesty at the centre of everything we do.
In practice that means three things. Members say what they are into on their own terms, with interest tags such as Dom, Sub, Switch, Bondage & Discipline and Roleplay. The site is open about what it costs, in rand, on one page. And consent is treated as the start of every conversation rather than a footnote to it.
If you want the detail, the features page shows what members can do, the safety page lists every protection and the pricing page shows every plan.
The house rules
Everyone who joins agrees to the same few rules, and they apply to every member in the same way.
- 1. Adults only
- The site is strictly for people aged 18 and over.
- 2. Real people only
- The site has measures to keep fake profiles out, and members may not market goods or services to each other.
- 3. Consent comes first
- A limit is a limit and a no is a no. Ignoring either is a reason to be blocked and reported.
- 4. Be kind
- Treat others the way you want to be treated. If someone is not your type, say so respectfully and move on.
- 5. Be tolerant
- Members come from different backgrounds and have different experience. Nobody is mocked for being new or for what they are into.
When you need a person
A real support team is available around the clock, by chat and messaging, for anything that worries you, including a member who is not respecting your limits. You can also block or report anyone from inside the site, and our guide to whether Kinky Singles is legit answers the questions people most often ask before they sign up.
New to kink? Start with what BDSM is and BDSM for beginners. Looking for a particular place? See kinky dating by city. Comparing adult sites? Our page on adult dating in South Africa sets out what to check.
Questions people ask about us
How long has Kinky Singles South Africa been online?
Since 2009. Even then it invited adventurous adults to indulge in fantasies and fetishes, and that promise has not changed.
Who can join?
Any adult aged 18 or over who agrees to the house rules. Age is estimated automatically, with further checks where the law requires them, and you can verify your ID for a badge.
Do I have to use my real name?
No. Members use usernames, and your real name and email are never shown to other members. Only your nearest town or city appears on your profile.
Is this a site for casual hook-ups?
Yes. Members say what they are looking for on their profiles, whether that is kinky sex, a fetish hook-up, a casual kinky encounter or a regular play partner. Say what you want plainly and find the people who want the same.
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